Healing & Forgiveness Healing and Forgiveness are Everything!
We have ALL been hurt and have hurt in this life. We must OWN that and move accordingly. Meaning, don't ask for forgive when you yourself can't forgive. Forgiveness is a two-way street. No matter what, we must forgive ourselves for hurting and allowing someone else to hurt us. Yes, I know that some things are extremely hard to forgive, trust me!
I had to do A LOT of forgiving to get to this point in life, including myself. Believe it or not, forgiving self is the hardest part because it forces us to look within. Even when we're completely innocent of a situation, we still blame ourselves for "allowing" it. When we did have a part in a bad situation, we don't want to blame ourselves; strange huh?
I can sit here all day and blame an ex for his hurt and abuse. But I also have to own up to my part in that mess and I do. You can't have two broken people trying to have any kind of relationship together. It's doomed from the start. No matter if your intentions were pure and theirs weren't. Though soul ties and abuse makes it hard to leave, you "choose" that mess over facing old hurts from your own family. There's bits and pieces of jagged comments and actions of family members you haven't let yourself deal with. So you stay in this unhealthy situationship, hoping it will change. Foolish thinking on my part!
I had to forgive and be forgiven for the choices I made, no matter who "green" I was when I made them. Pride and Selfishness has NO part in this; they make situations worse. Being unforgiven or not being unforgiving can render you bitter and/or resentful, which are self destructive and dangerous places to visit.
We ALL need to examine our heart postures and realize we are NOT perfect and infallible. There only perfect Man who walked this Earth was Christ. Let's not get this thing twisted though; forgiveness doesn't always mean reconciliation. Sometimes forgiveness precedes separation-or after. Relationships doesn't always have to continue when forgiveness is given/accepted. It takes maturity of at least one to see that.
Don't let this hinder you in living your best life. Understanding that Spirits (good or bad) within us or around us plays a HUGE part in how we move in this world. So when you go pray, pray against the bad and for the good.
Love you all, Peace! |
